Books by the old Leather Chair

  • Snow In The Summer
  • My Bible
  • The Power of Silence
  • What Comes Next and to Like It
  • Encore Provence
  • A Year in Provence

Wednesday, October 3, 2012

Early Wednesday Thoughts

Hardly a month goes by without a death
of someone I know.  This happens as we age.

A call
that a cousin's wife had passed away after a brief illness
Just 61.

Then, the last of the older people who treated me so special
in this small community has passed away.  A special lady
of 97.  When I think of her she will always remain an Angel.

Buying the old farm house, just passed 40 years of age,
making a new home for myself and children, there were so
many older people who reached out to me.  The attention and
love they
showered upon me  was needed.   I now smile at the reality
of my arriving,  but
years ago I found it unsettling that ladies my age rarely welcomed
me in the same way.  I arrived in this small town a lot different
from the farming community ladies.   Remodeling a 100 plus farmhouse,
an upscale vehicle, a lot of remnants of a life she had left.
  Guess a newcomer, attractive and going through a divorce
is not one that most ladies her age would be drawn too.

My youngest daughter is going to visit and attend the funeral with me.
She spent her growing up years in this church
and many will reach out to her.

Errands yesterday and a neighbor placed some old bales of straw in my pickup.
When my rare help is here it will be spread on an area that is washing.
  Not to long ago I would have done this - but not anymore.

Yesterday was also a  misty rain kind of day.
Cool and leaves are rapidly changing.
Smoke and scent from the tobacco barns hangs
heavy in the air.

Another busy day begins
with thankfulness for much
in my life,
but many thoughts on my mind
of past and future....

I have found that many circumstances in my life
that at one time
caused me unhappiness
now bring a smile to my face.


Judy said...

I laughed the other day when I thought of an incident that hurt me at the time--now it seemed almost comical when viewed from a distance of 20+ years.

Balisha said...

Sorry to hear of your friend and family member's deaths. I think that you've mentioned the 97 yr. old woman before and know how special she was to you.
I moved to a small town and I found that the elderly people were more welcoming too. My special neighbor-friend was 15 yrs older than me...we had a special bond of laughter, joy, and just plain fun.
She is thought of every day.
Take care,

Friko said...

You are right, as we age, people disappear from our lives. It's sad but that's how it goes.

It's good to end up with a smile on your face.

Lynn said...

I’m very sorry for the loss of your friend. Spending time with you daughter is sure to keep that smile on you face.

Beverly said...

so sorry to hear of your friend and family's loss. Sending you a hug!

sharon said...


the wild magnolia said...

sorry for the loss of your friend. happy for the good memories.

loosing a friend or friends is always significant, and more so as we age.

I lost three in 2011.

take care of you. ((hugs))

One Woman's Journey - a journal being written from Woodhaven - her cottage in the woods. said...

Judy, Balisha, Ursula, Lynn, Beverly, Sharon, thanks for visiting...

One Woman's Journey - a journal being written from Woodhaven - her cottage in the woods. said...

Dear Sandy, thank you - you also take care on this travel time.

Sharon said...

I'm sorry to hear about your loss of loved ones. Dear friends cannot be replaced.

We can choose to be happy or unhapppy, which is something I'm learning in the second half of my life. And doesn't it feel better to be happy?

Sky said...

So sorry for your loss.

Oh, how the objectivity of time can open the door to insight we did not have years ago. I have been able to see one particular part of my own past through different eyes during the past 10 years, and it has been fascinating. Wish I'd had all this wisdom then!

Tabor said...

Inevitable that we loose those we love. I just hope for peaceful passing for each and everyone of us. You have a great supportive family and are a wise woman.

One Woman's Journey - a journal being written from Woodhaven - her cottage in the woods. said...

Sharon, Tabor and Sky, thank you...

mel said...

You have a beautiful perspective. I did not know you were divorced. Me, too. Just coming up to one year now.